How to Believe In You, Even When It’s Hard
Having faith in yourself isn’t always an easy thing so I personally have had to LEARN to believe in myself, and I want to show you how I did it and teach you how to believe in you! Now just to be upfront, I am not a doctor or therapist so everything I am going to share in this post is just what worked for me.
First Things First, Is Your Inner Voice Your Friend…Or Your Foe?
I want you to really think about the question I am about to ask you and then answer as honestly as possible, in the comment section below if you like or just for yourself, but really be honest with yourself. Is your inner voice supportive and encouraging or bullying and discouraging?
Until I really stopped to pay attention to how I was treating myself in my thoughts – how I spoke to myself in my inner dialogue – I never realized how cruel I was being to myself. And not just sometimes, but most of the time.
I had always struggled a bit with self esteem issues because of being bullied a bit as a child, but it took me a really, really long time, well into adulthood, to make a correlation between my inner dialogue and my self esteem.
Too bad I didn’t figure it out sooner, but better late than never, as they say. Anyways, I don’t even know what made me think of it at all initially, but one day I found myself pondering what impact that horrible voice in my head – my voice – had on my life and my success in life.
The Experiment: Thought Correction
Okay, thought correction might sound a bit spooky, but it isn’t at all. When I say thought correction, I’m saying it to mean exactly what it actually means. I decided that I would be ultra concious of my internal dialogue and anytime I caught myself being a bully, I would simply correct myself.
For example, if I were to catch myself thinking something like, “I can’t go back to school. I’m too old and probably wouldn’t even be able to get a good job even with a degree,” I would stop myself, tell myself why that was irrational, and change it to, “If I choose to go back to school, I will work hard, study hard, and graduate! And then I will start my new career!”
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know it sounds hokey, but believe it or not – IT WORKS, like a charm! And over time – and with consistent self correction – that negative voice just slowly, but surely disappeared and the positive, supportive voice became second nature.
If using the strategy of personal thought correction to help improve your self confidence and attain greater success in life interests you, click the link below to learn more:
Keep a Steady Flow of Positive Reads On Your Book Rotation
There are so many great books out there to help you learn to cultivate yourself. Making a point to read uplifting and inspirational content will plant seeds of possibility in your mind. Because there isn’t any point in learning how to believe in you – if you aren’t going to dream!
One of my favorites is the classic, How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. It was published in 1936 and since then has sold 15 million copies. It is one of the best selling books EVER! In 2011, it was listed as one of Time Magazines 100 Most Influential Books, making it as relevant today as it was when it was first published!
This guy really knows what he is talking about which is why, in my humble opinion, How to Win Friends and Influence People is a book that everyone should have a well loved copy of on their bookshelf.
Now, my let’s move on to my final tip on how to believe in you – but it’s gonna take a little practice…
Act as If…and Do It Now!
Now, I know that acting like you have a ton of confidence isn’t easy – especially when you struggle with believing in yourself. But for me, acting as if I had confidence in myself and what I was doing even when I didn’t, was a huge part of my journey to truly having faith in myself and really feeling comfortable in my own skin.
Fortunately for you, acting as if is as simple as it sounds once you get the hang of it. Just think of yourself as an actor playing the role of a confident human being, whether it be at work or a job interview or whatever else you need to.
Now, let me explain what not to do when you are acting as if. You don’t want to act like you are knowledgeable in something you are not because then you will come of as a bit of a fool, and we definitely don’t want that.
Instead, you should act confident in your ability to learn whatever you might need to learn in the given situation. Ask questions. Be engaged and engaging. But you gotta go out of your comfort zone a little bit and just take a deep breath and dive into the situation!
No matter if it is a social situation or a business thing, acting as if you are a compentent, capable human being will always be a good way to go…just make sure always to keep your sense of humor. Just try to exude a sense of confidence (even if it feels fake to you) and you’ll be well on your way to actually believing in yourself.
Because slowly but surely, in time, you won’t need to act as if anymore because gradually it will have become natural. I tell you from experience, that it is worth the initial discomfort and occasional minor blunders.
Putting It All Together
So, a quick recap of what I’ve covered…
My 3 Best Strategies To Learn How To Believe In YOU:
- Correct negative or self-depricating thoughts
- Read, read, read POSITIVE literature on personal development
- Act As If – until it becomes natural to you
So first start by being hyper aware of the tone of your inner voice. Whenever it is being nasty to you, stop and think about why it is wrong and then just REPLACE the negative with a positive. It’s really simple, and it really actually works! At least it did for me…
Then you gotta feed the fire of positivity some kindling in the form of positive and inspirational personal development literature. This is how you learn to cultivate a happier, more confident you! I suggest you start with How To Win Friends and Influence People because it is a classic and a good foundational read to help develop qualities in yourself that will aid in your future success in life.
Finally, you gotta put it all into action and just put yourself out there. Pretend you are an actor or actress and a confident you is the role of a lifetime! The more you put yourself out there in the world, the more second nature it will be to you. All you have to do is push through the discomfort and correct any negativity in your mind.
I really hope these tips work for you as well as they did for me! They work together and create a foundation on which you will be able to stand as you learn how to believe in you!
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