Changing Your Mindset For Success, Because Success Starts In The Mind

Have you ever stopped to wonder why some people attain success in their lives while others continue to struggle? I know I have. Is it raw intelligence, higher education, personal discipline, self confidence, charisma, or something else? What combination of personal qualities equals a successful life? Is changing your mind for success – to be able to attain greater success in life – possible?

Wouldn’t it be nice if there were just a formula to follow to get you from where you are to where you want to be? Of course it would be, but unfortunately, there is no one size fits all formula to attain success in life. But fear not! Because I have a theory that if we can master our mind by mastering our thoughts, we can change the level of success that we are experiencing in life. If you are ready to be the master of your own mind, keep reading. And the good news is that it is surprisingly simple!

Changing Your Mindset for Success

A negative mindset will hold you down like an anchor. A positive mindset allows you to dream and go after those dreams!

Your Inner Dialogue Sets The Tone For Your Entire Life

I have a little exercise in self awareness for you! I want you to spend one whole day keeping a pen and a little notebook with you, or you could just use the Notes app on your cell phone – analogue or digital, whichever you prefer. ;P
From the time that you wake up in the morning to the last moment before you turn the lights off to go to sleep at night, I want you to keep a count of any negative or self deprecating thoughts you are having. Nothing detailed, just a straight count of anything negative you think towards yourself. I’m not talking about thoughts about externally negative things. I’m talking about the thought that say things like “You can’t do that,” or “You’ll never figure it out. Why bother even trying?”
I know that when I did that exercise for myself, I was pretty shocked by how high the number ended up being! And at that time in my life, I actually thought that I was pretty confident woman with maybe not the greatest, but still fairly decent self-esteem.
The conclusion that I was forced to come to after spending a day just tracking my negative and self-deprecating thoughts was that I must not like myself very much.

I Knew That I Had To Do Something To Change The Way I Was Thinking

Fortunately, the problem turned turned out to be really easily solved. But before I get to how I was able to completely change the entire tone of my inner dialogue, I really think it is important that we continue analyzing what is going on with you right now.

Now you have spent a day just keeping track of all of the negative thoughts you are having. This is just to get a count on it so you can have some way to measure how negative your thinking is. If you are surprised by how high the number is or, especially if you are not, you should probably spend the next day or two getting a little bit more detailed information about your mind and your thoughts.

I, personally spent a few days just writing down some of the various negative thoughts I had throughout the day each night before I went to bed. I was really quite shocked by how cruel I was being to myself, quite a lot of the time. I wouldn’t talk to anyone – no matter how much I may dislike them – the way I was talking to myself all of the time! Why? Why in the world would I bully myself this way?

And more importantly, how was I gonna change this sad state of affairs?

It’s Time to Use Some Imaginary White-Out On That Negative Mindset…If You Want To Succeed

Fortunately, I was in luck. The solution to my problem – and yours – turned out to be quite simple. As simple as just making a choice to always correct any negative thoughts, while also thinking to yourself why the thought was irrational and then replacing it with corresponding positive of the thought.

The 3 Steps to Banish Negative Self Talk:

  1. Become Aware of the negative thought.
    1. Just make an effort to be hyper aware of your thoughts and thought patterns. Whenever you become aware of negative, self-deprecating, or disparaging thoughts, stop yourself and move on to the next step.
  2. Expose the irrationality of the thought to yourself.
    1. Actually, in your mind, tell yourself why the thought is irrational. We can always learn, grow, and develop ourselves more fully, but first you gotta remind yourself why the negative thought really isn’t the way things really are.
      1. For example, if I find myself thinking that I can’t do something, I try and remember something that I thought I would not be able to learn how to do, but was able to fairly easily.
        1. My personal go to example for myself is thinking that because I had been out of school for so long that I would really struggle in college. I was wrong. I consistently made A’s in all of my classes, with a couple of exceptions. For the most part though, I was extremely successful in almost all of my college courses.
  3. Replace the negative thought with its corresponding positive thought.
    1. Once you’ve reminded yourself why the negative thought has no place in your incredible mind, just repeat the same thought, just flip it to a positive statement.
      1. For instance, an “I can’t” sort of thought would be changed to an “I can and I will” thought.
    2. And yes, you have to actually replace the negative thought in your mind by replacing it with the positive after taking it’s power away by exposing the irrationality of thinking in that way.

Cultivating a Positive Mindset Will In Turn Cultivate a More Successful Life

Basically, the general idea is to just self correct any negativity you detect in your internal dialogue. In time, you will notice that you are having to correct yourself less and less, and that the tone of your thoughts will become increasingly positive.

And positivity breeds success! When you are your own best friend and cheerleader, you are open to trying new things and taking advantage of new opportunities. And best of all, your confidence will begin to soar. The change that I have experienced in my life from cultivating a positive mindset has been truly powerful.

I believe in myself and take more chances. My productivity has soared and my ambitions have as well. Which is why it was important for me to write this post! I want you to find the happiness and confidence that I’ve found using this remarkably simple technique. Changing your mindset for success has never been easier or more effective.

Please leave me a comment below if you enjoyed (or even if you did not) this post and of course, I would absolutely love it if you would share, share, share it with anyone you think would find value in reading it! If you have any questions about this post or anything else you would like me to write about, please leave those in the comments, as well. I would love to hear from you!

Cheers,
Allison

 

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